A fairly shallow, ’sex-in-the-city’ style topic I know, but an interesting one none the less. Why is it that as a fairly stereotypical male coder, I am along with the rest of my gender and profession attracted to girls that can chat about encapsulation or closures? Advertisers have been relying on this behaviour for centuries to sell things to groups of people, so why is it so important?
I have just been watching a talk about a frontend topic by a fairly notorious female coder, someone that in the normal world I would not really be interested in, yet as she spoke, I could not help but notice how much more attractive she became as she explained the topic.
Now it’s not unusual that a person invited to present in front of people will have a charisma and likability above the average person, this is why they are in that position, and sometimes it doesn’t have to be the opposite sex -(I am not unaware that a charismatic man can also become far more attractive), however I feel it’s something more than that.
I recently ended a relationship as it was not working out for me, in part I felt there was little further to progress on an intellectual bearing with my partner and I did not want to see it get messy. At the time, I wasn’t totally sure this was true, and I know several successful relationships where the couple have very little in common, but the more I think about it the more I think having fundamental similar attitude to things is vitally important for a successful relationship.
This is perhaps why why female coders seem so much hotter, because you know if someone understands code they must have a similar thought pattern to you or at least one you can identify with. Often I find that you can tell whether you will get on with someone from the way that they code, if it follows the same logic as your own and you get get the jist of it fairly quickly then chances are, you’ll get on like a house on fire.
Having said that, I’ve never had a coder girlfriend so really don’t know, perhaps I’m just incredibly picky.